HEALING, INSPIRATIONAL

HOW TO REMOVE ATTACHMENTS TO PAST RELATIONSHIPS

 

PROCEED WITH CAUTION: The only way this article will make sense to you is if you have had an encounter with a soul that was put in your path to help you dive deep into clearing past life soul Karma. 

 

About five years ago I was involved in the most manipulative and energetically parasitic relationship I could have ever imagined. I was tossed around, in and out of mind games and by the time I got out of this relationship I had felt like I had just gotten out of the heavy load cycle in the spiritual washing machine (whatever that is). I had to physically separate myself from this person, so I did. The most intense part was that even though I had separated my physical body from his, I could still feel him and his emotions even though we were hundreds of miles away from one another. He would also know what I was feeling, it was like we were still tuned into the same radio station.

And then it hit me after one day in meditation. We were connected through universal consciousness, all of us are connected.

We magnify this oneness energy when entering a relationship with someone. Upon first meeting this person it feels like a supernova star just exploded in your heart chakra. There is a high that comes form this and this is the acceleration of all of your chakras, uniting you with your higher self. There is a type of spiritual chemistry that goes on, your energy combined with this other person’s energy, creates energetic cord entanglements that are unpenetrable from anywhere in the universe. The cords become knotted and extremely intertwined like an umbilical cord; breathing life into the re-genesis of both chakra centers in separate bodies.  Thus accelerating each other’s DNA for healing, the two of you have chosen to become the embodiment of oneness of the universe; the only truth the action of being in love. Although in some cases meeting a soul companion could mean the cords become stronger from karma clearing activities if accepted by both parties involved. When both souls or one resists this acceleration they both experience discharging trauma or a soul shocking energy field decrease together.

Let me explain a bit further, I think we attract into our lives a mirror to show us what experiences we need to release in order to find peace within this one. When you meet someone and there is that magnetic attraction feeling. That person is the perfect mirror to reflect back to you areas that you need to heal. The healing is then your job, instead of becoming offended by these deep soul divulges; you dive deeper into the relationship with yourself (not fixing the other person) to see what the root of the pain is from. It is also your partner’s job to do the same. We are always just projecting ourselves onto another, what we love about them are areas we are comfortable with within ourselves and have healed. Areas that offend us or draw in negative emotions like fear and anger, are areas we need to heal deep within ourselves. If one or the other person abandons ship, then off the both of you go and you will both attract another perceptive partner to help ease these lessons of unconditional, experiential love to you in a way that you can “handle”.  In this soul clearing process you can see why I say there may be some deep chakra cord creation and entanglement with this person. As a side note I think the creation of these cords are so intense for most sensitive or spiritually in tune people that they turn to drugs or alcohol to numb the intuition that ties both parties together but I am here to show you a better way to release those entanglements.

So how are energetic chakra cords even created in the first place? 

To put it more clearly all of life down to a subatomic level is vibration including our thoughts and words. When we are in romantic relationship with others we create unconscious contracts with each other.  We do this through sex, marriage, verbally telling one another we love each other, creating art or poetry for a loved one, writing to them while having intense feeling toward one another, even just thinking about them, etc. These are the paperless soul contracts that create cord connections.

Example: You get divorced and can not figure out why you are having such a hard time “finding” your next soul mate. You can check in with your higher self and see if you are still unconsciously honoring your vows.

Most importantly now that you know what soul contracts and/or energy cords are, the next question is: How do you remove such cords? 

1. Sit somewhere quiet and comfortable. Close your eyes and start by taking 10 deep slow deliberate breaths.

2. Think of the person with whom you want to cut ties with.

3. Scan your body. Try to visualize a cord coming from the heart or any other region in the body your mind is pulled to being connected to this person. Selenite wands help with body scanning and clearing.

4. Keep breathing and imagine how it feels to cut this cord between the two of you. If you have a similar experience to me I could feel the density and size of the cords and why they were place there. Imagine cutting the cords.

5. Ask your higher self and subconscious mind to release all contracts and/or subconscious obligations with this person. This includes all energetic invasions in your environment (car, house, etc), ask for the release and complete return of your original energetic balance within your body.

6. Lastly, picture sending this person love and gratitude for hard learned lessons and thank the universe for the return of balance to your body and your physical environment. Visualize closing this energetic portal.

As a closing note, I want to say to everyone that I have never read anything like this anywhere else and this is just an energetic practice that I have found extremely beneficial within my personal spiritual walk. I hope to the inner most center of my heart and being that this will help someone out there that felt as confused and out of control as I did. This practice really changed my life. Although we are all one, sometimes others are just in different stages of evolution and we have to release them with love to find that self love within, so that we can do the same.

Namaste, we are one.

Hi everyone, my name is Jocelyn Daher and I am a team member and writer for Spirit Science. I have been a herbal healing alchemist ever since I was old enough to pretend I was the Dr. Quinn Medicine woman equivalent. I am into studying astrological charts as well as how astrology relates to current events. I was a chiropractic assistant for two years, within that time I received my yoga teacher certification, which now I use as a bookmark but I acquired some neat information on how to direct and play with energy in my body. I see every person as an extension of my family. My passion is reminding humanity how to love, in hopes to ignite the memory that you are in fact a walking embodiment of universal perfection!

 

The Key Difference Between Pride and ArroganceWhy you can gain confidence without becoming conceited.Published on July 29, 201

David was an overly-serious professional who came topsychotherapy to work on his low self-esteem. Yet, whenever we discussed exercises that could strengthen his feelings of self-worth, something interesting happened: David resisted. When I asked him why, he admitted it was because he was afraid.

“What of?” I asked.

“Of becoming prideful,” he said. “I really need to be more confident but I’m worried that if the therapy succeeds and my self-esteem improves, I’ll become arrogant.”

“Trust me, there’s no way you’ll go from self-doubt to arrogant,” I assured him

“How can you be sure?” he asked.

“I’m just not that good,” I said.

My joke was intended to break David’s tendency to over-think everything—while he believed he was merely being cautious, by constantly second-guessing himself he was actually sabotaging any steps he took to rebuild his self-esteem.

But David isn't alone: People with low self-esteem often worry that improving their confidence will make them arrogant.

The Difference between Arrogance and Self-Esteem

Boosting our self-esteem when it is low is important for our emotional health (read How Self-Esteem Functions as an Emotional Immune System), our happiness, and even our relationship satisfaction (read Why Some People Hate Receiving Compliments).

But what distinguishes between people who feel confidence and pride from those who are boastful and arrogant?

Psychologists distinguish between two kinds of pride. Authentic pridearises when we feel good about ourselves, confident, and productive, and is related to socially-desirable personality traits such as being agreeable,conscientious, and emotionally stable. Hubristic pride tends to involve egotism and arrogance, and is related to socially undesirable traits such as being disagreeable, aggressive, having low or brittle self-esteem—and being prone to shame.

People who seek to improve their self-esteem are essentially looking to generate feelings of authentic pride rather than hubristic pride—they want to become more confident, not arrogant. The good news is that authentic and hubristic pride are not actually on the same continuum because they represent two distinct facets of pride. People do not go from being insecure to being arrogant unless they were egotistical, selfish, and aggressive from the get go. In other words, the reason I could be so sure David (and others with low self-esteem) was unlikely to develop hubristic pride was exactly because he was worried about doing so. His worry indicated conscientiousness and agreeableness—traits associated with authentic pride not hubristic pride.

Couldn’t My Becoming More Confident Makes Others Think I’m Arrogant?

“Okay, so I won’t become arrogant,” David said once I explained about things to him. “But isn’t it likely others might perceive my new-found confidence as arrogance?”

“People’s perceptions of others are always filtered through their own issues,” I told him. “But the research indicates that is unlikely.” In fact, authentic pride tends to motivate us to display pro-social behaviors such as hard work, persistence toward our common goals, and generosity, while hubristic pride tends to motivate people toward anti-social behaviors focused on attaining dominance such as arrogance, aggression and hostility.

Both authentic and hubristic pride can afford someone status in other people’s eyes, but there is a significant difference between them. In one recent study, people were able to distinguish between displays of confidence and status that were attained through hard work and socially-valued skills (efforts which afford a person prestige) and status acquired through intimidation and aggression (which afford a person dominance rather than prestige). The study also found that people who displayed authentic pride were perceived as more likable than those who displayed hubristic pride. In other words, people can generally distinguish between confidence and good intentions, and arrogance and selfish intentions.

Once David understood these distinctions, he felt more comfortable moving forward and working on his self-esteem in earnest. After struggling with low self-esteem for many years, lasting feelings of true confidence were unfamiliar to him and his concerns about becoming arrogant resurfaced several times over the next several months. But by then he was able to comfort himself by telling himself the one thing he knew to be true: His very concern about becoming arrogant was the strongest indicator that he was exactly the kind of person who was unlikely to develop hubristic pride and arrogance.