*사랑에 실패하는 이유

Love between man and woman often fails

because people instinctively give what they themselves want.

Because a woman's primary love needs are to be cared for

and understood, she automatically gives her man a lot of

caring and understanding.

To a man this caring support often feels as though

she doesn't trust him.

Being trusted is his primary need, not being cared for.

Then, when he doesn't respond positively to her caring

she can't understand  why he doesn't appreciate her support.

He, of course, is giving his own brand of love,

which isn't what she needs.

So they are caught in a loop of failing to

fulfill  each other's needs.

As a result, they both feel like giving up

because they don't feel loved.

Ironically, they both claim to be giving more love than

they are getting back.

. . . . . . . . . . . . # 상대가 자기 사랑에 만족하는지,

                           사랑받고 있다는 걸 충분히 느끼고 있는지,

                           가끔 살펴보는 것이 현명하다,