You may think you know how to detect your cheating man, but even I missed the signs.
Getty Images
Flying Solo with Two Carry-Ons: I always thought I was smart. Not that I was necessarily so street smart, but after working for 15 years as a journalist, I did feel that I had a very good reporter's instinct. And, well, everyone always talks about women's intuition.
So imagine my surprise when, after more than seven years of marriage, I discovered that my husband was cheating on me, and ... that he had probably been doing it since the very beginning.
Clearly, I missed the top 10 signs that my husband was cheating on me.
10. When your best friend tells you over and over and over again that she suspects your husband is cheating.
9. When your husband complains that he is too tired to have sex.
8. When your husband calls you up at 2 AM telling you he is too drunk to drive home and doesn't want to spend $100 on a cab. So instead, he goes and spends $800 on a swanky Beverly Hills hotel. (Keep in mind ... he has never taken me there.)
7. When you just gave birth to your first child via C-section and your husband tells you he "has to work." (Even the nurse picked up on this one. In my defense, I was postpartum.)
6. When your husband goes out of town for work and tells you that if you call his hotel room and "enter name of girl here" answers, it's because he switched rooms with her since hers was better.
5. When your husband tells you he wants to do his own laundry. (I thought he was just being nice because I was so busy with the house and kids. My lawyer explained otherwise.)
4. You buy a new dinette set and your husband suddenly tells you the smell of the wood will give him an asthma attack. Instead of returning it, he gifts it to a "friend" who just happens to be a girl.
3. When your husband comes home at 3:30 AM and tells you he was working hard writing at the university library. Only problem is ... it closed at 5 PM.
2. When you question your husband about the STD test you discovered he took -- and he tells you it's because he was worried that he contracted something from a public bathroom.
1. When your husband posts on his Facebook page that he is engaged to some chick named Stacey.
남편바람기 10가지 징후[10 Signs Your Husband Is Cheating]
user
by Momlogic.com, on Fri Nov 13, 2009 7:38am PST 131 Comments Post a Comment Read More from This Author » Report AbuseYou may think you know how to detect your cheating man, but even I missed the signs.
Getty Images
Flying Solo with Two Carry-Ons: I always thought I was smart. Not that I was necessarily so street smart, but after working for 15 years as a journalist, I did feel that I had a very good reporter's instinct. And, well, everyone always talks about women's intuition.
So imagine my surprise when, after more than seven years of marriage, I discovered that my husband was cheating on me, and ... that he had probably been doing it since the very beginning.
Clearly, I missed the top 10 signs that my husband was cheating on me.
10. When your best friend tells you over and over and over again that she suspects your husband is cheating.
9. When your husband complains that he is too tired to have sex.
8. When your husband calls you up at 2 AM telling you he is too drunk to drive home and doesn't want to spend $100 on a cab. So instead, he goes and spends $800 on a swanky Beverly Hills hotel. (Keep in mind ... he has never taken me there.)
7. When you just gave birth to your first child via C-section and your husband tells you he "has to work." (Even the nurse picked up on this one. In my defense, I was postpartum.)
6. When your husband goes out of town for work and tells you that if you call his hotel room and "enter name of girl here" answers, it's because he switched rooms with her since hers was better.
5. When your husband tells you he wants to do his own laundry. (I thought he was just being nice because I was so busy with the house and kids. My lawyer explained otherwise.)
4. You buy a new dinette set and your husband suddenly tells you the smell of the wood will give him an asthma attack. Instead of returning it, he gifts it to a "friend" who just happens to be a girl.
3. When your husband comes home at 3:30 AM and tells you he was working hard writing at the university library. Only problem is ... it closed at 5 PM.
2. When you question your husband about the STD test you discovered he took -- and he tells you it's because he was worried that he contracted something from a public bathroom.
1. When your husband posts on his Facebook page that he is engaged to some chick named Stacey.
Sad to say ... these are all true.
RELATED FROM MOMLOGICIf It WASN’T a Hoax: Balloon Boy 911 Call Rising Number of Women Earn More than Mates 8-Year-Old Girl Calls 911 During Robbery, Saves Family Jenny Sanford Speaks OutRead more: http://www.momlogic.com/2009/11/10_signs_your_husband_is_cheating.php#ixzz0WkpgDc3A
Related: relationships, marriage, kids, family, dating
부끄럽게도, 나는 항상 내가 직감이 뛰어나다고 믿어왔다. 15년간 저널리스트로 일한 직업적 "감"도 그렇고, 여성 특유의 감각도 예민하다고 여겼던 것이다.
그런 내가 7년여간의 결혼생활 후에야 비로소 남편이 신혼 무렵부터 외도를 해왔음을 알았을 때, 얼마나 놀랐을지 짐작이 가는가, 아무렇지 않게 보아 넘겼던 남편의 태도들이 '징표'였음을 뒤늦게 알게 된 것이다.
아래 소개하는 10가지 사항들은 나를 비롯해 배우자의 외도를 경험한 여성들이 말하는 '남편이 바람피고 있음을 말해 주는 징후'들이다.
10. 당신과 가까운 여자친구가 몇번이고 반복해서 "네 남편 좀 수상하다"는 말을 한다.
9. 잠자리에서 남편이 피곤하다는 핑계로 매번 성관계를 미룬다.
8. 새벽 2시, 회식 뒷풀이라며 전화한 남편이 너무 취했고 택시비가 아까우니 근처 동료의 집 또는 모텔에서 자고 오겠다고 말한다.
7. 당신이 난산으로 첫 아이를 품에 안은 직후에 "일하러 가야 한다"며 병실을 나서는 남편.
6. 남편이 출장간 호텔방으로 전화를 걸었더니 낯선 목소리의 여자가 받았다. 남편은 "서로 방을 바꾼 것"이라고 설명한다.
5. 집안일이라곤 돕지 않던 남편이 갑자기 "내 빨래는 내가 하겠다'고 나선다.
4. 선물로 들어온 식기세트나 인테리어 소품 등을 남편이 "회사 동료에게 주겠다"고 가져간다.
3. 새벽3시가 넘어서 집에 들어온 남편. 야근을 했다. 승진 시험 준비를 했다는 등 설명을 하지만, 왜 미리 얘기하지 않았을까.
2. 병원에서 성병 검사를 받은 사실을 들키다, 남편은 "공중 목욕탕에서 병이 옮았을지 모라 검사를 했다"고 말한다.
1. 남편의 미니홈피나 블로그를 살펴라. 여성인듯한 특정 인물과 두터운 친분을 보이는 말들이 오갔을 것이다.