안녕하세요. 이거를 영어로 써서 죄송합니다. 저는 한국에서 살았지만 한국말를 잘 할수 없습니다. (복잡한 이유). 어쨌든 이것은 제생각으로 말하는것입니다. 이것을 읽어주시면 아주 감사합니다. 혹시 아무 나 이글을 번역을 할 수 있다면, 대단히 감사합니다. (한국말은 영한사전을써서 쫌이상할수도 있음니다. 죄송합니다.)이것은 진정한 부모는 무엇인가 하고 제생각을 말합니다. In the South Korean society, we see everyone diligently working hard, even from the age of 8 when kids begin to attend school. Students work day and night, only to produce As in their report card. The kid is praised and loved by their one and only parents, as they produce the result that they want as they put in thousands of dollars into the tuition fees of the school and into hagwons. However, what happens to the kids that do not produce these wanted results in their report card? How will they be treated when they cannot become the best of their class, or get all As in their report card? Well, the obligation of the kids is to be a student, a learner. These various subjects that the students learn in their school might not reflect upon their report cards, but they try. They try their utmost hardest for their future. However, why do students begin to study day and night? Is it because they want to go to a good university? Or could it be that they want to please their parents? The fundamental reason of why they study hard should be for their future. To have a brighter future. When parents pressurise their kids to get As, the parents usually do not care about the process that their kids go through, as they want only the results. When the parents are satisfied, they compliment. When they are not, they punish. Then, what the kids instinctively learn is that they must get good grades. Not for their bright future, or become what they want to in the future, but in order to satisfy their parents. Now, it comes down to the fact that students work hard for the sake of their parent. They do not have any ideas of what they want to achieve or become. Satisfying their parents is the fundamental goal that they have to achieve. The students who are significantly better, obviously gets praised by their parents, go to a good university and have a good life. Now, what happens to those students that do not present the grades that their parents want? Most of them or all get scolded by their parents. They are punished, both physically and verbally, to do better. Being at work all the time, their parents cannot see the fact that their son or daughter try their best and only hope to see As in the report card. The cycle of punishment and studying continues. And there are only two ways out of this vicious cycle. The first way is of course, studying and studying, until they produce the wanted result that will in the end satisfy their parents. This process may be simple when said, but the parents are forgetting or simply neglecting the fact of the huge process that their son or daughter is going through. The other solution is to unload these heavy burdens. These immense pressures of parents, hagwons and tests and projects grades, all build up as burdens to the students. And when these burdens become too much, they collapse. They collapses as the students decide that there is no better choice than demise. Adults and parents may not recognise or understand why their kids would choose this path. Well, it would be hard to understand considering the fact that South Korea has recently become one of the fastest growing and developing countries in the world. Because of these recent establishments of hagwons, schools, and various educational institutions, parents do not, or fail to seek the students's conditions. Hopefully, the future generations of these hard studying students will remember the hardships that they went through and do not exert the same factors to their kids when they become parents. Now, parents see and believe that their obligation of being a "parent" is to put in money into their kids for their educational purposes. Parents work all day and come back home late, usually the father being drunk. However, they do all of their work. They make money, send their kids to school, and repeat the same thing again and again. However, what they don't realise is that they think that this is enough of what you can call being a parent is. And to those students that complete their duty, is being a perfect student. However, if the notion of parents is to produce money and for the student is to produce good results, then I believe that this is a job. A job that the student and parents have to do. If the parents force out good results from their kids, then did they do their job as a parent? Some might agree, but I believe not. The notion of parents in South Korea changed as time progresses. The notion of parents was once a father or mother that cares, attends when their kids are at need, and helps them to progress through life in South Korea. The fact that they have to make money for their kids education is not a job. It is an obligation. A duty that they must serve to in order to be named or even remembered as being a father or mother. Now, some may argue that if the parents gave tuition fees and made their kids life successful, then they accomplished their job as being a parent. Then, what happens to the parents when their kids graduate? If the notion of being a parent is to provide education for the kids's success, then that parent is no longer or cannot be called a parent when their kids grow up. The kids get jobs and make their own money for their living. The parents are finished with their duty and no longer provide money for their education. Now that they are done with their tasks, are they no longer a parent? In my view, they were not even a parent to begin with if they just provided their kids with money for education. A real parent, both father and mother, is to help and guide their kids into the correct path. Not just providing money to the kids, but giving their kids a life. A life where the kids can have a conversation about their past to their kids regarding what they did when they were young. Thinking of just studying and memorising words day after day would mean that this parent has failed their duty as to be a parent and should not be called a mother and a father. The essence of this talk is to state that what the general people believe a parent is might not actually be what a real parent should be. Parents and their kids having fun, making a conversation about each other's day, going outside to a park or helping out with a relationship, is what you can call a true parent. Thank you so much for reading and understanding this. This means so much to me. I hope that many of you will change your mind or even your life and end this vicious cycle for the next generation. 읽어서 정말 감사합니다. 이것은 나에게 많은 것을 의미합니다. 나는 당신의 마음 또는 인생을 변경하고 다음 세대를위해 악순환을 끝낼 수 있기를 바랍니다.
부모의 정의(영어)
In the South Korean society, we see everyone diligently working hard, even from the age of 8 when kids begin to attend school. Students work day and night, only to produce As in their report card. The kid is praised and loved by their one and only parents, as they produce the result that they want as they put in thousands of dollars into the tuition fees of the school and into hagwons. However, what happens to the kids that do not produce these wanted results in their report card? How will they be treated when they cannot become the best of their class, or get all As in their report card? Well, the obligation of the kids is to be a student, a learner. These various subjects that the students learn in their school might not reflect upon their report cards, but they try. They try their utmost hardest for their future. However, why do students begin to study day and night? Is it because they want to go to a good university? Or could it be that they want to please their parents? The fundamental reason of why they study hard should be for their future. To have a brighter future. When parents pressurise their kids to get As, the parents usually do not care about the process that their kids go through, as they want only the results. When the parents are satisfied, they compliment. When they are not, they punish. Then, what the kids instinctively learn is that they must get good grades. Not for their bright future, or become what they want to in the future, but in order to satisfy their parents. Now, it comes down to the fact that students work hard for the sake of their parent. They do not have any ideas of what they want to achieve or become. Satisfying their parents is the fundamental goal that they have to achieve. The students who are significantly better, obviously gets praised by their parents, go to a good university and have a good life. Now, what happens to those students that do not present the grades that their parents want? Most of them or all get scolded by their parents. They are punished, both physically and verbally, to do better. Being at work all the time, their parents cannot see the fact that their son or daughter try their best and only hope to see As in the report card. The cycle of punishment and studying continues. And there are only two ways out of this vicious cycle. The first way is of course, studying and studying, until they produce the wanted result that will in the end satisfy their parents. This process may be simple when said, but the parents are forgetting or simply neglecting the fact of the huge process that their son or daughter is going through. The other solution is to unload these heavy burdens. These immense pressures of parents, hagwons and tests and projects grades, all build up as burdens to the students. And when these burdens become too much, they collapse. They collapses as the students decide that there is no better choice than demise. Adults and parents may not recognise or understand why their kids would choose this path. Well, it would be hard to understand considering the fact that South Korea has recently become one of the fastest growing and developing countries in the world. Because of these recent establishments of hagwons, schools, and various educational institutions, parents do not, or fail to seek the students's conditions. Hopefully, the future generations of these hard studying students will remember the hardships that they went through and do not exert the same factors to their kids when they become parents. Now, parents see and believe that their obligation of being a "parent" is to put in money into their kids for their educational purposes. Parents work all day and come back home late, usually the father being drunk. However, they do all of their work. They make money, send their kids to school, and repeat the same thing again and again. However, what they don't realise is that they think that this is enough of what you can call being a parent is. And to those students that complete their duty, is being a perfect student. However, if the notion of parents is to produce money and for the student is to produce good results, then I believe that this is a job. A job that the student and parents have to do. If the parents force out good results from their kids, then did they do their job as a parent? Some might agree, but I believe not. The notion of parents in South Korea changed as time progresses. The notion of parents was once a father or mother that cares, attends when their kids are at need, and helps them to progress through life in South Korea. The fact that they have to make money for their kids education is not a job. It is an obligation. A duty that they must serve to in order to be named or even remembered as being a father or mother. Now, some may argue that if the parents gave tuition fees and made their kids life successful, then they accomplished their job as being a parent. Then, what happens to the parents when their kids graduate? If the notion of being a parent is to provide education for the kids's success, then that parent is no longer or cannot be called a parent when their kids grow up. The kids get jobs and make their own money for their living. The parents are finished with their duty and no longer provide money for their education. Now that they are done with their tasks, are they no longer a parent? In my view, they were not even a parent to begin with if they just provided their kids with money for education. A real parent, both father and mother, is to help and guide their kids into the correct path. Not just providing money to the kids, but giving their kids a life. A life where the kids can have a conversation about their past to their kids regarding what they did when they were young. Thinking of just studying and memorising words day after day would mean that this parent has failed their duty as to be a parent and should not be called a mother and a father. The essence of this talk is to state that what the general people believe a parent is might not actually be what a real parent should be. Parents and their kids having fun, making a conversation about each other's day, going outside to a park or helping out with a relationship, is what you can call a true parent. Thank you so much for reading and understanding this. This means so much to me. I hope that many of you will change your mind or even your life and end this vicious cycle for the next generation.
읽어서 정말 감사합니다. 이것은 나에게 많은 것을 의미합니다. 나는 당신의 마음 또는 인생을 변경하고 다음 세대를위해 악순환을 끝낼 수 있기를 바랍니다.